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My experience with an emotion called Love. Young love I'd like to call it. Joined that club at 19. Back to singledom now :)
Is it something I regret, cherish or just plain ignore ? Read On.
I am a follower of the thought of Unconditional Love. Now saying that, does that type really exist ? Some may say Yes, the example cited being Mothers Love. I agree to that, but then again I'm not talking about that. Do you think in this age the love between couples is Unconditional ? The vow goes "In good times and bad...". It should be shortened to "In good times". A cynical view, you might say. But then its not a mistaken thought. A view developed from experience and observation of goings-on around me.
Conditions ? Really ? What conditions ?
Money. Heard of it ? That 1 piece of paper that causes people to kill, invade and destroy more life on this planet than any other single material man has ever made. If it's capable of such atrocities, can love not be susceptible to it too ? Hmmm indeed. All this hoopla surrounding this single emotion on which billions of dollars are spent on in form of movies-with-happy-endings, novels, magazines etc., is it really what it is portrayed to be ? The movies or articles never go beyond "They lived happily ever after" do they ? Guess they too know it ain't all that sweet a journey beyond "The End".
I was a fool once. One who believed in the school of thought that proclaims "Love is selfless" and the above written Vow with "..and Bad times" included. Guess sometimes life screws you the hard way to teach you the lesson titled - "Wake up.Get real.Life isn't a sweet dream".
I'm not being a chauvinist when i say - Are there Women who can love a man for what he Is rather than for what he brings ? Observations convey a simple No, for what reason God only knows, literally. But then again I'm open to the thought that there might be some out there from the opposite sex who ask the same. I can only say - "Hope u read my blog babe. Contact me" ;)
There are many other conditions that might 'disturb' the concept of love. But I'd stick to writing about something I know of personally. Can somebody give their everything to keep what they think is the real deal, going ? Well I had thought so. I believe I was. But yes I admit mistakes were made by me too but not which wasn't being rectified. C'mon if I don't make mistakes I should be Super-man. On 2nd thoughts didn't he make 'em too? And anyway I don't fancy blue spandex outfits and red underwear. lol. I kinda like the Black Spidey outfit though.
Nonetheless back to topic, let me talk about my experience quickly. I fell in love with a woman of another religion and it lasted for 4 years. I gave her my all, unconditionally. I believed it was my happy-ending-story (lol so corny this line!). But turns out it wasn't all that selfless on the other side. Lotsa conditions masked under religion & parents I suppose. But I do thank the woman for whatever has happened. I've become a wiser man. Made some great friendships that I otherwise would have ignored due to "lack of time". 1 thing I have realized is that one's friends and lovers are the ones who accept you unconditionally. The idea generally followed though is that the lover has a tendency to make you a person they want you to be. Its a tendency that shows up over time not initially and yes both men and women are prone to it. I find this whole drama ludicrous because one falls in love with another for who they are but then sow the seeds to change the other immediately after. I'm a firm believer of If you are meant to be you will be no matter what the obstacles. So its all been for the good. Maturity is a product of time, age and experience. I also took time to redesign my blog and maintain this as my open diary.
Reader, I am not here to contradict your views about love. I am here to voice my view at this stage of my life and write page 23. A very interesting one indeed it has been. Indeed.
One love feeds the fire
One heart burns desire
I wonder, who's cryin' now
Two hearts born to run
Who'll be the lonely one
I wonder, who's cryin' now - Journey
Update as on 19th Feb 2009 - Did a very mature and feel-good thing. I mailed her.
My experience with an emotion called Love. Young love I'd like to call it. Joined that club at 19. Back to singledom now :)
Is it something I regret, cherish or just plain ignore ? Read On.
I am a follower of the thought of Unconditional Love. Now saying that, does that type really exist ? Some may say Yes, the example cited being Mothers Love. I agree to that, but then again I'm not talking about that. Do you think in this age the love between couples is Unconditional ? The vow goes "In good times and bad...". It should be shortened to "In good times". A cynical view, you might say. But then its not a mistaken thought. A view developed from experience and observation of goings-on around me.
Conditions ? Really ? What conditions ?
Money. Heard of it ? That 1 piece of paper that causes people to kill, invade and destroy more life on this planet than any other single material man has ever made. If it's capable of such atrocities, can love not be susceptible to it too ? Hmmm indeed. All this hoopla surrounding this single emotion on which billions of dollars are spent on in form of movies-with-happy-endings, novels, magazines etc., is it really what it is portrayed to be ? The movies or articles never go beyond "They lived happily ever after" do they ? Guess they too know it ain't all that sweet a journey beyond "The End".
I was a fool once. One who believed in the school of thought that proclaims "Love is selfless" and the above written Vow with "..and Bad times" included. Guess sometimes life screws you the hard way to teach you the lesson titled - "Wake up.Get real.Life isn't a sweet dream".
I'm not being a chauvinist when i say - Are there Women who can love a man for what he Is rather than for what he brings ? Observations convey a simple No, for what reason God only knows, literally. But then again I'm open to the thought that there might be some out there from the opposite sex who ask the same. I can only say - "Hope u read my blog babe. Contact me" ;)
There are many other conditions that might 'disturb' the concept of love. But I'd stick to writing about something I know of personally. Can somebody give their everything to keep what they think is the real deal, going ? Well I had thought so. I believe I was. But yes I admit mistakes were made by me too but not which wasn't being rectified. C'mon if I don't make mistakes I should be Super-man. On 2nd thoughts didn't he make 'em too? And anyway I don't fancy blue spandex outfits and red underwear. lol. I kinda like the Black Spidey outfit though.
Nonetheless back to topic, let me talk about my experience quickly. I fell in love with a woman of another religion and it lasted for 4 years. I gave her my all, unconditionally. I believed it was my happy-ending-story (lol so corny this line!). But turns out it wasn't all that selfless on the other side. Lotsa conditions masked under religion & parents I suppose. But I do thank the woman for whatever has happened. I've become a wiser man. Made some great friendships that I otherwise would have ignored due to "lack of time". 1 thing I have realized is that one's friends and lovers are the ones who accept you unconditionally. The idea generally followed though is that the lover has a tendency to make you a person they want you to be. Its a tendency that shows up over time not initially and yes both men and women are prone to it. I find this whole drama ludicrous because one falls in love with another for who they are but then sow the seeds to change the other immediately after. I'm a firm believer of If you are meant to be you will be no matter what the obstacles. So its all been for the good. Maturity is a product of time, age and experience. I also took time to redesign my blog and maintain this as my open diary.
Reader, I am not here to contradict your views about love. I am here to voice my view at this stage of my life and write page 23. A very interesting one indeed it has been. Indeed.
One love feeds the fire
One heart burns desire
I wonder, who's cryin' now
Two hearts born to run
Who'll be the lonely one
I wonder, who's cryin' now - Journey
Update as on 19th Feb 2009 - Did a very mature and feel-good thing. I mailed her.
Page 23
First of all, I'm glad you used Microsoft Word. It makes the blog so much easier to read.
ReplyDeleteAnd what you've said about love is true. Loves kills. I find more sadness associated with it than happiness, but that's my story.
And lastly, the black Spidey outfit is too cool!
Hmm
ReplyDeleteInteresting...
nice choice of words and good articulation...i must say im impressed..both by the content and the intent....
hmmmmm....dats some solid gyaan u got at 23!!I am sure da, u will put all this u have written wen u choose ur girl!!
ReplyDeletesai u know wht after readin dis whole saga :D..i've decided m gonna get u drunk and help plot revenge :-) and yea dude when life hands u lemons jus ask for salt and tequila and call me over
ReplyDelete;-)...wht da hell keep smilin u li'l pervert ;D
The blog is pretty thoughtful!!I am not a gr8 blogger nor a fair critic :)but i felt tht ur being very transparent, I always feel tht a song or any kind of medium of expression is effective when it makes you introspective just like the picture on top of ur blog which i thought has an amazing chemistry with the maiden lyrics u have written with it!! Probably if u can achieve that then you could end up writing some awesome songs :-))!!! Check out the record X-Factor, i have a feeling you might be able to draw something out of it :-)
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i have nothing to say, because you've said it all! i bet anyone who has been in and out of love will nod along to everything in this post.
ReplyDeletei'll just say 2 words, and you'll heartily nod along - - SINGLEDOM ROCKS! =)